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HOW TO SET STRICT BOUNDARIES: 1. Treat yourself a

HOW TO SET STRICT BOUNDARIES:

1. Treat yourself and others with kindness. This will raise your vibration and ward off those who don’t match your energy.

2. Have respectful conversations with those who violate your boundaries. 
3. Don’t violate your OWN boundaries.

4. Say NO to others more and YES to yourself often – without feeling guilty. 
5. Stand by everything you believe in and be LOUD about how you feel on important topics such as racism, abuse, and self-love. 
Ask yourself: Who do I need to set clearer boundaries with? Am I respecting my own boundaries? Are there toxic relationships that I need to end? Am I being true to myself?

#healthyboundaries #boundariesarehealthy #boundariesarebeautiful #settingboundaries

Are you showing your kids what it’s like to real

Are you showing your kids what it’s like to really LIVE life?

Or are you just getting by each day? Doing the bare minimum to survive?

Both are okay.

But, I’d like to challenge you, as a mother, to really start enjoying life.

It doesn’t matter if you can afford expensive things. You don’t have to go places or buy things to show your kids what it’s like to LIVE.

In fact, I’d dare to say it’s more important to show them that LIVING is enjoying the day-to-day things. Finding joy in the simple things, making fun out of nothing.

I dare you to show your children what it’s like to authentically:

Play. Laugh. Move. Have meaningful conversations. Nurture your body. Take care of things. Educate your mind. Have FUN!

PS. You don’t have to do these things WITH your children. They are watching you, imitating you, and learning how to live!

You are way too magical to NOT be loving yourself or to be loving a fun life!

#unfilteredmotherhood #mentalhealthmatters #selflovefirst

Darling, you look perfect. ✨ When is the last

Darling, you look perfect. ✨

When is the last time you looked in the mirror and loved the entire reflection? Curves, fine lines, stretch marks, cellulite, grey hairs... all of it?

Sadly, it doesn’t come easy... loving the way we look. We have commercials showing women with the perfect skin, shiny hair, and expensive clothing. We have picture-perfect Instagram accounts with moms who have it all put together.

I’m sure you’ve heard it before but I’ll tell you again: that isn’t real life, for most of us, at least. Us regular people... We have stress, sleepless nights, responsibilities, and years of negative things people have made us believe about ourselves.

It takes WORK to love the woman looking back at you. That work... it starts from within. It starts in your soul and your heart. When you start prioritizing your self-care and spirituality, you’ll notice everything in your life transforming.

One day, you’ll realize that you see someone else in the mirror... A woman with features passed down from her ancestors; a woman with marks that represent a life well-lived. More importantly, you’ll see how bright your aura is now that you’re loving even the darkest parts of your soul.

Ladies, remember, YOU ARE PERFECT. We see it; why can’t you?

#loveyourbody #humandesignprojector #selflovefirst #selflovetips

Let’s normalize self-love. ✨ I’m so over s

Let’s normalize self-love. ✨

I’m so over seeing women doubt themselves. Even more so, I’m so sick of seeing confident women be torn down by others because of how much they love themselves.

We need to normalize loving oneself passionately. It shouldn’t be an unusual thing to do nice things for yourself. This is more than treating yourself every once I awhile. Self-love is about fully believing in yourself. It’s a unspoken KNOWING that you can do hard things and you can accomplish ANYTHING.

If you’re reading this, take it as a sign from the universe that you need to place an order for self-love. I challenge you to fall in love... with you.

#selflovetips #selflovefirst #selfcarechallenge #selflovechallenge #loveyourself

THE BIG REVEAL ✨ I’m so sorry I kept you guy

THE BIG REVEAL ✨

I’m so sorry I kept you guys waiting so long for this Paper Flower Shadow Box reveal! I rolled 42 paper flowers to make this beautiful sign for my office.

I used my #CricutJoy to cut the flowers and the @officialcricut shimmer smart vinyl. Isn’t it beautiful?

I created the quote/design myself and I have a free SVG for this on my blog if you’d like it., along with an easy-to-follow written tutorial. Just click the link in my bio.

“Good things take time” is my mantra of the year so I felt as if I needed to see in my office daily. I wanted to do something for ME, to stay in the theme of doing nice things for myself.

I hope you guys love it as much as I do! I think it’s safe to say that the Cricut Joy has kept me sane this past year.

#CricutMade #CricutCreated #cricutcrafts #papercrafts #goodthingstaketime #personalgrowthjourney

The first nice thing I do for myself every day is

The first nice thing I do for myself every day is cook a nice breakfast. ☀️

I take my time, asking my body what it really wants (and needs) to start the day. This is one thing I don’t skip because it sets the tone for how I’m going to treat myself throughout the day.

If you’re struggling with self-love, I encourage you to choose one thing to do for yourself every single day. Don’t make excuses as to why you can’t do it – just carve time out to make it happen for yourself. With two kids, a toddler and a baby, I still make time to do something kind for myself.

Braid your hair, read a nice book, learn something new, cook yourself a meal and use your favorite dishes. The little things will open you up to big things.

So, tell me: What are you going to do for YOU today and every day?

#selflovetips #selfcareideas #morningroutines #mentalhealthmatters #todayistheday

What is normal anyways? 🤔 I wanted to fit in

What is normal anyways? 🤔

I wanted to fit in; to be like the other ladies in my circle of colleagues and peers. I felt uncomfortable being “rough around the edges” as I liked to call myself.

I’ve never wanted to be the center of attention so blending in felt like the right way to go. So, I slowly molded myself until I felt like I was exactly what others wanted me to be.

I’m doing so, I lost myself. I forgot who I was before all of this. I couldn’t figure out what made ME special anymore.

In working on your mental health and journey of self-love, I ask that you never try to be “normal”. Honestly, the best route is to not try to BE anything other than who you are.

I know it can be hard sometimes... to remember who you are. So, do the things you love. Spend time with people who REALLY know you and love you.

Then, pay attention to who you are in those moments. Jot down the feelings, take mental notes, speak to others about what they love about you. Just as importantly, accept your flaws. Your flaws make you WHOLE.

FIND yourself. ACCEPT yourself. LOVE yourself.

#mentalhealthquotes #selfcarequotes #wholesomememes #authenticself #fallinlovewithyourself #mentalhealthawareness

✨ L E V E L UP ✨ My word of the year is GRO

✨ L E V E L UP ✨

My word of the year is GROWTH. This word kept popping up all around me, along with awakening, so I knew it was the universe was trying to tell me something.

Together, these two words have completely empowered me to make some big changes in my life.

I encourage all of you to trust yourselves. Pay attention to you intuition and follow your gut. We have the tools we need within us to grow – we just have to listen and pay attention to our bodies and minds.

If something doesn’t feel right — step away from it. Notice what makes you feel energized and what drains your energy. If something doesn’t align with your core values, let it go without a second thought.

My friends, that’s what true self-love looks like. Loving yourself enough to say no without feeling guilty. 🙌

Level up your mental health, dig deep into spirituality, and watch as the rest of your life transform. You’ll find yourself yearning for better foods, taking better care of your appearance, and wanting to MOVE your body.

We’re so often taught to “fake it til you make it” and to “just get it done”. Don’t listen to any of that. Put in the REAL work for YOU and everything else will fall into place.

You deserve to love yourself the way you love others. 💖

#loveyourselffirst #captionswithheart #levelup #mentalhealthawareness #humandesignprojector #stitchfix